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Self-Harm

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Self-harm is when someone intentionally hurts themselves as a way of coping with difficult thoughts, feelings or experiences. It can affect anyone, of any age or background, and it is far more common than many people realise. Because it is often hidden and surrounded by stigma, many people who self-harm struggle in silence.

Whether you are struggling with self-harm yourself, or you are worried about a friend, family member or colleague, it can be hard to know what to say or where to turn. Understanding why people self-harm, and responding with patience and compassion rather than judgement, can make a real difference to someone’s recovery.

In this article, we explain what self-harm is, share ways to get support if you are struggling, offer advice on how to help someone else, and list trusted organisations that provide confidential help. If you need to talk to someone right now, you can call Samaritans free on 116 123, any time, or text SHOUT to 85258. If you or someone else is in immediate danger, call 999.

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    Self-harm awareness can be represented by an orange ribbon, the butterfly is also a significant symbol which represents the Butterfly Project. Individuals draw a butterfly on their skin instead of cutting, if the butterfly fades on its own, it signifies overcoming the urge.

    Self-harm is one of those topics that can be difficult to talk about, but what many people don’t realise is how common it is.

    For some harming themselves is a way to cope with distress, trauma, overwhelming emotions or feelings that they cannot express in words. While it may bring a temporary sense of release, control or relief, it can also leave people feeling isolated, unsure where to turn and ashamed.

    Many people will experience periods where they use self-harm as a coping strategy as it is often also linked to difficult feelings such as anger, emotional pain and anxiety. It may feel that this is the only way to manage their feelings.

    If you are struggling with self-harm

    Firstly you are not alone, recovery is possible and reaching out can be the first step towards finding safer ways to cope and to feel understood.

    Talking to someone can make a difference, you might consider:

    • Talking to your GP or other healthcare professional
    • Talking to a friend, family member or trusted colleague
    • Contacting a confidential helpline or online support service

    If you are supporting someone who self-harms

    Discovering someone you care about is self-harming can feel frightening or overwhelming and it’s normal to worry about saying or doing the wrong thing.

    Some of the best ways you can support them is to:

    • Listen without judgement
    • Take their feelings seriously
    • Encourage them to seek professional support
    • Look after your own well-being

    You don’t have to manage this alone and support services can help guide you as well as the person you are supporting.

    Talking about self-harm openly and compassionately helps break the stigma that surrounds it.

    Whether you are struggling yourself or supporting someone else, help is available and these links are for organisations that can provide confidential help and support.

    Self-Harm Support

    Young People

    Autism

    Supporting someone else who self-harms

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